House Mates, Toddlers and Heartbreak

So we had moved in a friend of mine from my husbands old hometown and once again left with the short end of the stick...
I HATE FACEBOOK! She is posting I "abused" her and treated her like a slave! WTH! If she was treated like a slave, I would be happy to change positions with her.


I know that I am hard to live with, I don't deny that one bit. I was upfront and told her to live here RENT FREE and given food you have to help me with the children and help me clean the house.

I moved her upstairs. It was not finished when she moved up here and she moved a friend in with us to help with that... 4 months later and guess what I am having to do.  Hire someone to finish my upstairs. UGH! So the drywall was hung and I bought all the materials. It just needs to be finished up.
So after a major clean up, picking up cat poo and throwing away perfectly good furniture I am furious.
What makes this worse is that she's playing the victim. Really?!?!
There was a quote on a white board at school it read:

Facts are Negotiable

Perceptions are not...

Makes total sense, given the situation. Her "perception" is that I abused her by expecting the house to be cleaned after I worked a 12 hour day. I expect their to be dinner ready due to the fact, I bought the groceries.  I expect my things to be in place where I left them that morning before I went to work...

If you were a babysitter you wouldn't allow that sitter to stay if she allowed your children to rampage throught the house and destroy everything in their little paths, right?

Not only did my lovely toddlers get into my room they managed to grab my collectables from a shelf in my room and hide them in their room. When I asked her about this I was told, "I watched them the whole time, that's why the house isn't cleaned." DO WHAT!!!!! 

So 2 bags of chips are GONE. Pizza left overs on the counter and I asked her if she made dinner and she told me that, "Me and the boys had pizza." The boys and I had pizza! UGH 

That next week I had to DEMAND that she take a shower... Really, why do I have to do more than ask. One time my husband got up and sprayed down the chair she was sitting in, in hopes to save our furniture. He even told her you have to shower everyday. She got a little hurt over that too. 

Her cat... oh her cat, she wanted to help this cat have her kittens.  Then dumped this poor cat on me.  This cat HATES my dog, attacked him a few times. This brings me back to Layla...sweet Layla, I loathed that dog.  Not because of the dog but because of the owner. I cannot stand someone who gets a dog and does not train it at all! Then refuses to take care of the thing. If it wasn't for me and a friend that dog would have starved.  She applied to several jobs when she first got here. Then she gave up. So  that left me to take care of this animal. Not to mention after I had to get up at 3 and 4 am several morning I tied her up to a tree.  I was tired of hearing this dog cry and bark and waking me and the toddlers up.  

She left for the weekend and I started cleaning, this is when I found the upstairs to smelling horrible, and cat poo everywhere. Piles of clothes here and there. It was a mess.  MY BED smelled. Thank you Jesus for OdoBan. I was just done! Done with the "I can'ts" done with the "my back hurts" done with "I won't go to the doctor" Just DONE! 

I wasn't going to put up with it anymore. She worked 5 hours a day and still came home and sat down and watched TEEN MOM! She's 26 you are no longer a "teen" she would help with dishes but that is where it stoped.  She would constantly take selfies and was on her phone on POF. If you never look up from your phone you will NEVER find someone.  

Speaking of that phone, One night I was watching "Once Upon A Time" and that stupid thing went off every 15 seconds. Several times in a row. I asked her if she minded and she laughed! Laughed at me, and told me it was someone on POF! And your point, turn it down or off.  One night she made my husband so mad he turned the tv up as loud as it went and she got mad at him and went to her room.  

So I told her when I got paid on the 15th I would give her some money for helping with the boys, at least they didn't burn down the house. However she didn't wait till the 15th.  When I told her I was really pissed off that when I went upstairs to get into the closet it SMELLED so bad and that I found cat poo all around the room and the litter box was terrible, it was too much for her to handle.  

She blocked me from Facebook and started unloading her dirty laundry. Telling everyone that I yelled at her. Uh yeah when your fail to have common sense, and you treat me like crap. You bet your butt I'm going to yell. I have bent over backwards trying to help her better herself but she refused. 

So if you are one of her friends and reading this, you can ask my neighbor and ask people around me what was going on.  Their is 3 sides to every story and you will Never know the whole truth because you weren't there to see the day to day actions and reactions. 

I will end on this, my boys and I have a long road to recovery because of this.  My little doesn't trust me right now and it will take some time, but the most heartbreaking thing out of all of this is not that she left my child ALONE for 2 hours but the fact my 4 year old asked me if she was mad at him... 

This is not cool. I hugged him and told him no she was mad at me, why because I am the Mom and I will do what I can to take the hurt away.  My children should have never been hurt in this, and because of this I will live alone for a long time. 

Back to posting again...

SO a lot has happened since my last post. Now I will be able to post a little more.  We moved our little family to Texas. We love it here.  A lot less drama and really good people.

So I went back to work had some great friends help me with the boys while I worked. I've changed jobs and went to the oilfield while my husband was a stay at home dad for a while.
Made a little money and helped get the house sold in Louisiana. Now we are about to buy a new home but in the mean time we are staying in a single wide trailer until we find the right one.

Now I'm doing a job closer to home until my husbands license gets straitened out. I am able to be home everyday and the boys are enjoying that.  My oldest is doing great he's 3 years old now and is smart as a whip.
My youngest whos 2 just started talking and almost potty trained. So excited.

So now brings me onto my side hobby. I have picked my hooks back up and I'm crocheting like crazy.

I have 2 days off a week and tons of yarn so lets begin.

Our Church

So I don't normally post things like this but today I went to fill in a hole at church. The church was built on an old homestead and the well was not properly sealed off. So I filled up the back of the truck with buckets of dirt and go up there to start filing it in. I finally get the tailgate down, which was stuck. I get 3 buckets unloaded and I felt the Lords presence, I didn' t care if I looked like a nut or not but I feel to my knees and just prayed. Prayed and told God I was thankful for everything and please let life will get better. Most of you know last year was really rough on us. Lots of bed rest with being pregnant with William, then Jeremy lost his job... he's working again and has his licence again but it just been difficult this year. Pray for my family and we are always praying for you.

Weight Loss Not Going so Good!

We have all been very sick around here.  Jeremy has been sick for 3 weeks.  The kids and I started feeling better Sunday evening.  I hate that Jeremy is still sick! This diabetes is really kicking his butt.

So I have not been able to work out everyday due to our sickness.  I am hoping that I will be able to start back in a few days.  I worked out yesterday and the day before and I'm starting to get woosie afterwards like my sugar is too low.  So I have Jeremy's extra meter and I'm going to start taking my sugar after workouts if this continues.

I'm also making another small change to my workout.  I'm going to start getting up early to do my workout so that when the kids are down for their nap I can clean and do laundry.

I'm doing my Dance games so if anyone is wondering.  When I first started I lost quite a bit but I didn't keep up my diet after I got sick.  I didn't take my soda out during the first because I'm trying a few things.  However this go around I'm only going to allow my self 1 can a day.  I have to have my caffeine and I'm not ready for coffee yet.  I have never been a fan of coffee but I am kinda liking the dunken donuts coffee I'm trying now.

So other than that I'm trying to get my scheduled of things going.  I'm thinking of Vlogging bc it might be easier.  I want to record my weight loss and let people know that if I can do it they can too.  I know it is a hard battle but you have to get up and do it.

So hopefully next week I will know what I'm doing.  I kind of like typing but it takes a while to do it.

Weigh in.

Got up this morning and here we go its Friday.  Now my weight is 240 lbs so from 6 week post partum that is 16 lbs. Yay!  So keep dancing fat girl and we will see next week.

Weight Loss...

So trucker for 6 years and 2 babies later I have gained a lot weight.  I will do official weigh in next Friday but when I left the doctors office at Williams 6 week old mark I weighed 256 lbs.  I started playing Dance Central on Xbox and I feel the burn.

High School I weighed 125 lbs I was a size 12 and ran everyday. This was taken in 2002 the year I graduated.

 And here I am just a few weeks ago.  So I need help, support and strength to lose this weight! I don't expect to be 125 lbs again but to get to 160 would be great.  Please help support me in this challenge.  My first goal has been met that is to get up and do something about it.  My second goal is only 1 soda a week! I have to cut the sugar out and start cooking right.  

I promise to post at least once a week and hopefully I can successfully lose weight.  

Nutella Brownies WHAT?!?!?

You Add 1 cup of Nutella

10 tablespoons of flour

2 eggs

mix all in a bowl

Put them in the oven at 350 for about 20 mins ( may need more time if you cook it non-cupcake form)

and I didn't even get a picture after they were done they were that good.  

My son kept stealing them off the counter so you know they were that good.  

21g of sugar so not too bad for a diabetic.